The Pain of Writing

Gloria Steinem said, “I do not like to write – I like to have written.”
I’m right there with you sister. I’m in the midst of writing two important works (by important, I mean I know there are people who want and need this information; I get emails and phone calls with questions about it all the time). One is an e-book, the genesis of which goes back almost two years! And yet I have to make myself set aside the time to do it. And then when the appointed time comes, I have to force myself to stay off Facebook and Twitter and actually do the writing. It’s too easy to get lost in “doing research” and avoid composing original thoughts.

What is up with that? It’s not just me. Do you struggle with this challenge too? You’re not alone. I know plenty of writers who struggle with this issue. Is it a fear of not having anything to say? Or conveying the message in an imperfect way? Sometimes it feels like the right words (or any words) are just out of reach.

“There’s nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and open a vein.” ~Walter Wellesley “Red” Smith

One of the strategies I’ve found helpful is to do a short, ten or fifteen minute, meditation to clear the head. There are some good ones at Meditation Oasis. I particularly like podcast #29, Enhance Your Creativity, for helping focus my thoughts before writing. Podcast # 37, Accessing Intuition, works well too. Take a look at the list – they’re all free – and see if there’s something that resonates with you.

Another good approach comes from Nike. Just do it. Close your email. Go offline. Put on the Pandora “spa” channel. Attach blinders. Sit your butt in the chair and start writing. Even if you think it’s crap, keep writing. You’ll edit later. For now, write, write, write. I’ve heard it gets easier the more you do it. Personally, I’ve not gotten to that point yet – something to look forward to. In the meantime, I’ll use a bit of personal discipline and get to work. Someone is waiting. Someone needs to read exactly what it is I’ve got to say.

The Best Part of a Big Event

Hello, my name is Lori and I admit I’ve fallen off the (blogging) wagon. It’s okay, I’m not hurt. Here we are four weeks into 2011 and I’ve not written a single blog post this year yet! Can I plead that my writing energies have been going towards the daily thank you notes I committed to in the last post of 2010? I could, but that would be lame. As mentor Paul Martinelli says, “the only thing worse than an excuse is a good excuse.”

I actually heard Paul say that once again when he was on stage at The Big Event 2011 this past weekend. What a great event to give a kick-start to the goals. If you haven’t been attending learning events and conferences, boo to you. But instead of beating yourself up for the past, vow to change this oversight now and schedule some for this year. It’s not just about what you learn from the speakers, it’s the connections you make with other attendees, which can be even more valuable.

There was a group of young entrepreneurs who drove straight through from Idaho to West Palm Beach to attend this conference. That is an example of a no excuses approach. When you want something enough, when the WHY of what you’re doing is big enough, nothing stands in your way. Challenges don’t deter you. You do whatever it takes.

Carrie Wilkerson, Dr. John Maxwell, Randy Gage, Les Brown, Paul Martinelli, and Bob Burg all spoke at The Big Event and in one way or another touched on that idea. All good stuff.

AJim Palmer & Lori Saitznd back to the connections with other attendees, yeah, that was the best part! I’ve been working with The Newsletter Guru Jim Palmer for months and we finally got to meet in person. What happiness to brainstorm with him over dinner! It was a jGratitude Cookie Fan Svetlana Kimoy to reconnect with author and person extraordinaire Svetlana Kim; her silly enthusiasm for The Gratitude Cookies made me laugh. Plus I got to make a ton of new acquaintances with really cool people who are building fun, interesting businesses.

Whether it’s an industry event or a general business or personal development conference, make arrangements to attend at least ONE (if not more) this year and see how many ideas and new friends you come away with. Here are the next ones I’m considering (although I’m going to have to choose, as they’re these two are the SAME days!):

Glazer Kennedy Super Conference
Extreme Business Makeovers

Which ones do you recommend or are you going to this year?

Feminine & Masculine Energies

I was involved in a conversation on Friday about feminine and masculine energy. We were specifically discussing how relationships are affected when women have or portray “too much” masculine energy. I’ve been thinking about this all weekend.
Quick note, everyone, whether man or woman, has feminine (receptive, intuitive, inward, sensitive, delicate, emotional, nurturing) – also known as yin – and masculine (outward, hard, firm, logical, strong, rational, rough, loud) – also known as yang – energies.

My conversational partner was making the argument that when women have dominant masculine energy, they tend to have problems in their relationships with men because their masculine energy forces their partners to portray more feminine energy and the natural balance is disrupted. If women are wearing the “man pants,” their men can’t also fit into the same pants and that’s when relationship troubles arise. The man is made to feel “not a man.”

My friend said that women’s feminine energy is just as, if not more, powerful as the masculine energy. But a lot of women think that they have to use their masculine energy to be successful.

This theory is not at all something I would have ever before considered relevant, valid, with any merit. However, like I said, I’ve been thinking about it all weekend. And guess what. I’m starting to think there actually might be something to it. (where is the REAL Lori and when is she coming back?!)

I was thinking about all the people I know who are in what appear to be strong, loving partnerships. All of those relationships fit the model of females with strong feminine energy and males with strong masculine energy.

Now think about this comparison, which my friend brought up in our discussion. First, though, I have to ask you to put aside your political biases. This is NOT a political discussion, just an unscientific study in contrasts. (And for the record, I’m not a huge fan of either woman here.)

Look at Hillary Clinton. She primarily exudes masculine energy. This has nothing to do with her looks. It has to do with energy. Lots of women in Washington D.C. are like Hillary. I know, I lived there for a long time. Then look at Sarah Palin – more feminine energy. You have to ask if the contrast in energies affects how people initially react to them. (Again, take a few moments to think about this and don’t let their knowledge, experience or political affiliation cloud your evaluation.)

SO, I’m still undecided about powerful, successful women using their feminine energy to become what they are in the world of business and politics. Who comes to mind as a good example of this? Princess Diana maybe? Post your comments and share with me please!